"My child doesn't listen to me!", we have heard this phrase from many parents who are sick of their children not listening to them. But do we care about what they think? What do they feel? What do they want? Or something like why is my child so short-tempered? The Children who are supposed to be well-mannered but turn out to be rebellious teenagers as they grow up is a big disappointment, we want our children to be mature enough and understand that we want a better future for them but the question is, do they know it? The answer is a big NO. They don't know it.

You know, just like us, they also have the same mentality but phrased differently, the phrase in question is, "You don't understand me", it is quite common for teenagers to say this to their parents as parents stop their child from doing anything that they like or that they want to do. This characteristic is called the Personal Fable. This theory was given by an American child psychologist and author Mr. David Elkind (1967) in the theory of adolescent egocentrism, and its relation to risk-taking behavior in adolescence.

The PF scores significantly increased during grades Six, seven, and eight. At the age of 11, the individual is out of the childhood term and enters the term called 'Adolescence'. Which usually starts at the age of 12 and ends at the age of 19. Adolescents have an atypical kind of thinking in which they fail to understand the perspective of others and they see the world in terms of their selves.

What I just told you is a part of their development as it vanishes after a certain period. Teenage is hard for both parents and the individual going through it.

Another theory related to teenage development was given by a German-American psychoanalyst known for his theory on the psychological development of human beings Mr. Erik Homburger Erikson in the Identity Formation of the Child during the adolescent years. The theory states that people experience dissimilar messes and predicaments throughout their lives in eight stages, as the different stages arrive they should be completely concluded before advancing to the next stage of their life. Particularly, the division of identity formation arrives in the age of adolescence known as Identity versus Role confusion.

In this stage of life, the adolescents have an inner conflict with their identity and are in the process of forming a basic self-image that is going to be carried by them for their whole life, they will build this basic identity throughout their lives by meddling with different kinds and different styles of environment unassociated or contradicting from their environment which they have experienced during their childhood stage. This stage is completed as they confidently answer the questions like "Who am I?" and "Who will 1 be?". This is called Identity Achievement.

Now your question will be, how does Identity achievement have to do anything with them being a rebel? The thing is, teenagers are a human of their own and it is natural for them to have different thought processes than their parents, their developing mind and their emotions have different pathways than their parents. The way their emotional processes form and conflict with each other as they form their own identity with time differs a lot of times from others.

Developmental processes just work in a way that sometimes even confuses the individual of their likes and dislikes. Adolescents are usually indecisive because of their environment as it is usually changing with the time being. For example, a child may have 2 or more friends and they might have different environments which leads to a substantial mixture of more than 1 environment that leads to their development during the process.

Teenagers are not hard to understand as you may think, they are just developing into an adult and during this process it leads to several types of conflicts between the child and the parents and the best solution to this is listening to them on what they have to say about their lives as they are on a stage where the individuals needs to be heard the most. They don't listen to their parents because they are not being heard that they want to be, and again! hear what they feel to say about it.